So yesterday he was doing the work, today you’re going to be doing most of it… on yourself!
Oh yes, here’s one that will drive him crazy. So if you’ve got some sexy lingerie, go for it tonight. Do a full on dress up, and have fun with it. I honestly like dressing up for sex even more now than I ever did, knowing how crazy it makes him when he’s being denied. Yummy!
Tying him up is pretty much essential so do get some restraints if you haven’t got them (or you can use stockings or silk scarves). On top of which a dildo is really going to add to the fun if you don’t have one.
So as usual, get him to warm you up. Then tie him up! The whole idea is you’re going to masturbate and enjoy yourself while he lies there helplessly unable to get involved, his poor little cock all caged up.
Now I’m getting good at this mean stuff so I’ll also put some porn on, even if he can’t see it, to make it even worse. Then I’ll browse tumblr and start playing with myself. Maybe show him a thing or two, but mostly, just enjoy it. Add a vibe and get myself close, then I tend to grab his caged cock and pull on it. That’s about all the stimulation I plan on giving him tonight…
I’ll tell him how much I love keeping his cock caged, and then cum, maybe looking at him, maybe just ignoring him.
Then, then I’ll pull out the big guns, specifically our big dildo, the King Cock Extra Girthy and I’ll start using it. Verbalising is the real challenge, firstly making noises, you just have to overdo it. Remember they are used to porn, so try and be a porn star for them, lots of ‘Oh my god!’ and moaning and ‘It feels so good’.
And then, well then you could get meaner.
Compare it to him, either verbally, ‘Oh god this is so much bigger than you’ (obviously only if you’ve both got into this teasing…) or even put it on him and compare it to him. You could even lube it and wank it, or give it a quick blowjob. They will go nuts, I promise!
As you use it, tell them how good it feels inside you, and ask out loud why you need to ever unlock him if you have this dildo. All you need is his mouth and hands…
If you fancy it, shove it in his mouth, let him taste you or even clean it.
Then fuck it and vibe till you cum, as many times as you can. Seriously, push yourself. Each one will drive him crazy.
And that’s it. Cuddle up to him afterwards. I’d wait a bit to untie him, just playing with his straining cock and telling him how much you love this, and him. And if you’re feeling cheeky…whispering, ‘I’m really not sure if I want to let you out tomorrow, I guess we’ll find out!’
Not very complicated really, you get whatever you fancy!
As I suggested yesterday, get him to organise food in whatever way works for you, and then running you a bath is an excellent start.
This isn’t something we’d do but just in case you like the idea and have the privacy required, you being clothed, and him being naked over dinner and afterwards is something that apparently some guys would like the idea of. Not recommended if you’re eating out.
He could join you in the bath or you could send him off to prepare whatever you want afterwards. If you’re feeling mean then telling him to queue up a load of hot chastity captions to your shared blog would be fun.
Maybe the bath is followed by a film snuggled up together. At some point telling him to go down and lick you during the film sounds like an excellent idea to me. Do feel free to play with his caged cock and nipples as much as you want, but no letting him out, be strong!
After the film, I’m planning on getting a nice foot and back massage (you could do that before the bath too) where he WILL be naked. And then, I’ve got an erotic book I’m reading that I’m going to enjoy while he makes me cum with his hands and mouth.
And that’s it, I’m sure you can adapt to suit your own favourite things. But most importantly just enjoy yourself and note how much more he’s into doing all this when he’s been caged. Frustrating, sure… but there in my experience there is a new and wonderful satisfaction that he takes from pleasing you when you’re keeping him denied and caged.
So today the task is pretty simple, turn him on as much as possible and reinforce he has four days left in that cage before he gets any release.
I’ll leave it to you to pick which combination of these, plus any you think of, will work best:
plug his butt- not just at bed time, but when he gets home, or even earlier in the day if he’s used to it! Make him wear it and whisper to him, ‘I love your arse being stuffed for me, I bet it makes your balls even fuller!
send him texts to turn him on, tell him how horny him being caged makes you, let him know you’re masturbating thinking about it (do it or just pretend, either is hot), say that him being caged so long really makes you want to tell your friends because you’re so proud, send him sexy pictures of yourself if you like doing that.
use your shared blog, tell him to find you pictures on a certain theme that you know will turn him on, or just ‘post pictures that make your cock ache in your cage’
set him a task of ‘finding some porn that we can enjoy together later’
When you get to bed you then follow up with the ideas from earlier, review the blog posts, watch the porn together and any mix of him being teased or pleasuring you, just remember, the cage stays on and you should cum, a lot!
One fun twist on the porn idea is going to http://www.youporn.com/categories/ and get the other person to pick categories they are most interested in and then choose a video to watch, or laugh at in some cases 😛 It can be quite interesting to find out what type turns him on most, if you want to know…
Tomorrow is Pamper Night – Yay!!! So tell him today, he is responsible for a nice meal for the two of you tomorrow evening, take out or eat out or him cooking. Plus you’ll be enjoying a nice bath run by him so he could get you some nice bits and pieces during the day, or even some flowers!
So, as warned, today we’re going to start an extended lock-up of five days. Now I know for some who are really into denial that’s nothing, but for us and the way we do it, and to anyone newish to this, five days is a long time!
The way we usually do this, as you’ve seen, is while hubby may have a cage on for lots of the time for weeks… he’s regularly coming out for teasing and edging and just nights or days off as part of that.
The idea for these five days is no release, at all. Once that cage clicks shut today it won’t be opened again until Sunday (yes I know, four nights, five days whatever!)
I’m honestly curious about how this will be for us, we’ve done 6 days once before but this is still new territory for us.
Now for some of you who either have badly fitting cages or for other reasons like not wearing it to work it may be that you can’t do the five days straight and that’s fine, you just want to wear them as much as possible with no touching in between on an honour system.
Likewise if you have a plastic cage you may have to take it off for a rinse and freshen up at the mid point, although a power shower jetted into the cage plus lots of shower gel should be able to carry you through (a cotton bud to dry it out on the inside is helpful, I’ve heard).
So why are we doing this extended lock up? Well firstly, for curiosity. A big part of the chastity fantasy is about really long lock-up times with no release at all. This is a taste of that. It gives you and him a chance to explore how that feels and what effects it has on him.
Secondly, if you’ve been doing this every day then serious congratulations to you! It’s been pretty full on, and this gives us keyholders a bit of downtime.
That doesn’t mean we won’t be doing things with you, just, we won’t have a cock to tease as it’ll be all safely locked away!
Tonight’s plan
So tonight is pretty simple.
Once in bed get him to give you a warm up (I hope you’re still remembering to make him do that!) and then restrain him.
Time for a nice final tease. Use your mouth, lubed hands, and your pussy as you wish. I particularly encourage you to try grinding on him. This is best done with a vibe too so that he can watch you rub his cock back and forth between your pussy lips and you cum while all he can is watch.
If you feel self-conscious about that then blindfolding him is a great solution, and very sexy too.
Once you’ve cum a few times go back to edging him with your hand and then talk about how it’s been, but also about the fact you’re now going to lock him up for five days. This may be news to him or you may have mentioned it before.
Some starter questions to discuss:
How does the idea of your cock locked up for nearly a week without any release make you feel?
Should I do this, you want me to lock you up for this long? (I’m pretty sure he will but this is good to reassure you!)
What if you’re desperate, or beg to be let out, should I ignore you unless you use a safeword?
What should I make you do while you’re locked up?
What would you like as a reward once I let you out if you make it all five days?
And what if, once we got to the fifth day, I decided I liked having you locked up and just kept you that way, would that be hot?
And then, tease him right to the edge but be very careful not to let him go over today, we want him as horny as possible with full balls even as the five days starts. Don’t be tempted to ruin him or let him cum today!
Then, stop, tell him that’s it, and wait for him to go down and if at all possible, YOU lock him up.
You should take the key, and if there’s a spare key, make sure you have that too.
If he needs the spare key for emergencies simply seal it in a little envelope so you can tell if he got to it.
Please note, these things aren’t just to make sure he’s not cheating, although it does that. The main reason is it’s really hot for you to take away any option for him to cheat!
So, a last warning, tomorrow we’re going to try our first extended lock up – five days with little or no release from his cage.
Of course being in the cage for an extended period doesn’t mean no stimulation, no no that would be boring! So tonight we are going to do a bit more exploring of one of the main pleasure areas besides the cock, so he’s more ready for it once locked up. His bottom!
We mainly explored playing on the outside the other night. Now we’re going to add that other element if you haven’t already – penetration.
If you’ve got some experience in anal play and he’s home during the day or when he gets home you might want to get him to wear the plug (or for real pros, even wear it to work!). Let him prepare himself and put it in that first time, and then I suggest you make your freshly plugged man eat your pussy!
However most of the fun is going to happen in the evening. After a thorough shower and butt wash, snuggle up with a couple of drinks (booze is lube for the mind!), and unlock and begin to play with him, and then talk through what anal means for him. Discuss how it went the other night if you did that, just be open about how it was for both of you. You may discover he’s experimented quite a lot, alternatively you may find he is very worried about the penetration side ‘being gay’. Take the chance to talk anything through and emphasise that it’s just another way to give him pleasure and turn him on, and he’s very lucky to have the prostate gland up there that can actually feel amazing (something we women don’t).
Unlock him and start to play with his cock and add the fact that you like the idea of him being plugged for you as he’s getting used to the cage now and this is another reminder that he’s denied and to keep him even hornier.
Now, keep stimulating him and begin to reach down and rub his perineum (the gap between his balls and arse) and then the entrance to his bum. Lots of lube, lots of rubbing, and then begin to push a finger in as you play. If you want to you can slip a condom over your finger, some might even like the rubber glove medical look! Get him to describe how it feels all the time. He needs to be relaxed and enjoying himself for it to feel good.
Now, if you’ve got one, grab the butt plug and start to use it instead of your finger, playing around the entrance then into him with again more lube. The magic moment is when he’s stretched open with it and then his bum sucks it up and it settle into place.
This is why you NEVER use anything without a flanged base for this kind of play, or you’ll end up with a very embarrassing trip to the hospital!
Depending on the plug design you can fuck it in and out all the way or just smaller depths, whatever feels best really. Keep getting his feedback.Once the plug is in it might be a good opportunity to get him down on his knees eating your pussy and you can judge if it helps his performance!
If he’s really getting into this you might want to upgrade the plug to a dildo. You could get him to do it at this point if you wish, or try it yourself. Just be careful, you do NOT want to make him cum, and that’s very possible. So just go slow and don’t be too enthusiastic, this is just training! We want his balls nice and full for the coming lock up!
If you want, finish with an edge or two and leave the plug in him longer or even overnight!
If you haven’t cum yet, then make sure that happens!
Some tips: you can add a condom to the butt plug if you want ease of cleaning, they work better with some than others. You MUST use a condom on the dildo if you use it for your pussy (although with silicon or glass dildos a really good clean with proper soap and water and a toy cleaner should be fine.)
If you don’t use a condom on butt plug, either go to the bathroom to take it out or have a little plastic bag by the bed to pop it in to keep things clean. If you’ve washed yourself out well before it should be fine but it’s still your bum!
So, as with the warning about butt plugs in advance, you should know I’m planning to do a session where you try pegging near the ‘climax’ of Locktober, so, if you fancy exploring that (and remember even if you don’t it’s brilliant for HIM to wear when caged so you can still be fucked) then check out the amazing range at our favourite store Lovehoney
So after all those ruined orgasms yesterday I thought today would be a good opportunity to explore something a bit meaner!
Now I know this is a challenge for many of us, so to help I’ve created a Spinner! You can click this and it’ll spin and randomly choose from the options provided. The meaner options have a smaller chance of happening but once an option is picked it disappears! So they get more and more likely!
He is going to stay in his cage for this game unless he gets a couple of particularly (evil) options.
You can also really easily edit the options by scrolling down the page a bit. It’s really easy and the idea really is for you to end up making your own one to enjoy together.
Now I’ve included one here precisely because I’m nervous and haven’t tried it, and that’s using a penis plug. If you don’t have one then a well lubricated cotton bud (Q-tip) would do I guess – it’s just inserted INTO the tip of his cock. I’d take him out first I think but we’ll see.
Read up on the link below if you want to know more about using them but the main advice is go slow, use lots of lube, and do it before he’s super hard and THEN get him hard. I know for hubby the idea is hot if I restrain him first so I’ll definitely do that and then sit on his legs so I can just do it and unless he safewords there’s nothing he can do about it.
So in the same way, maybe there’s something you are nervous to try that you could put in the list – the lower down the list the lower the chance it’ll happen (smaller slice of the pie).
It could be fun talking about this beforehand and deciding an option or several that either of you are nervous to try and see what fate does. But once you start you have to agree, if the spinner lands on it you’ll try it!
I’ve also put a real mean option which is use menthol rub (like Deep Heat or Icy Hot) on his cock and balls – just to put in a scary one that everyone can try.
As I said before, menthol rub hurts A LOT. Once you’ve put it on there is nothing you can do to stop it. I suggest you dilute it by mixing it with some lotion, start with a little, and add more after you’ve waited at least five minutes for the effects to kick in. A good distraction is sitting on his face and making him eat you out as he suffers – well, at least it stops the whining! 😀
The game can stop when you’ve cum, once, or twice (harder version), or just when you want it to!
So, in a few days we’re going to try an extended lock up of five days for the first time – little or no release for their cock that whole time. Now we want them pretty horny going into that, so we’ll get a couple of days tease and denial in so that the news they aren’t going to get out for another five really has impact.
That, along with the fact if you’re actually doing this in October today is a Sunday has made me think that today’s a good day to revisit the ruined orgasm. Those balls should be nicely full now, let’s have some fun emptying them!
To do this we’re going to use a variation on a game that I posted early on in this blog – the ruined orgasm challenge! (The whole thing is available here and designed to be done over a week or so)
So I saw this on http://beautifulsecrets42.tumblr.com/ and loved the idea but there were bits of it I didn’t like so I’ve changed some, hope you like my take on it.
I’ve deliberately left six of them so if you wanted to make it into a game of chance, you can roll the dice to see which one you do. Or you can just work through them, or she picks which she fancies!
The game finishes when he can’t ruin any more or when you’re bored and want him to go down on you to make you cum instead!
If you liked the videos of ruined orgasms you can also revisit that post:
1 – Jerk off in front of her and let go of your cock as soon as you start cumming. You can cum on your own belly or on the floor…or if she’s into it onto her face or breasts!
2 – She must edge you with a blowjob. When you start to cum she will let your cock out of her mouth and just watch you squirt.
3 – You must fuck her and ruin your orgasm on her skin, and then lick it up
4 – You must be eating her out, in 69, or sideways 69 or her sitting on your face as she jerks you off, and she is to ruin you as she orgasms herself.
5 – You have to put your legs up on the bed or the wall so your cock is over your mouth and she will wank you and then ruin you directly into your own mouth
6- You must find a way to cum in her mouth with a ruined orgasm (so her BJ, you wank, or she wanks) and then she will kiss you and you share the cum
Thanks to “Teasingfun” who Beautifulsecrets credited for ideas
So, we;re a week into this all now so first I suggest you try reviewing the week so far, look back over the posts, what were your favourite, what would you like to do again, talk it through, how you’re getting on with it.
Also, if there are any you missed, revisit today perhaps?
Today’s is a bit niche but, it’s what I fancied and I write the blog! Today we’re exploring penis size teasing.
This is one of the kinks that we’ve got into that’s really surprised me, and I honestly don’t quite understand why, but a big part of it is how much it turns hubby on. And here’s the thing, if your partner doesn’t show any sign of this being a turn on, I highly recommend you don’t do it! Even if they do, you’ll note I call it ‘teasing’ and not ‘small penis humiliation’ which is how it’s often referred to, as that’s just not what I’m looking for.
From all the feedback I’ve got to previous posts let me just say, it appears not to matter how big your guy’s cock is. This is a turn on irrespective of cock size. I guess that’s partly because guys now have all seen huge cocks when watching porn so there’s always SOMEONE bigger. I suppose if he was huge this might not work but, the opposite might, seriously. ‘Sometimes I wish your cock was smaller…’ lol But as that’s statistically unlikely I’m going to focus on the bigger side.
And in answer to the inevitable question, no, hubby is bigger than average, but this still drives him crazy.
Instructions
Have him warm you up and then unlock his cock
There’s a bit where you measure him near the beginning so you could have a ruler or tape measure for that. There’s even a chart you can measure him against
Again, a bit of a script for you to play around with, not so long this time, once you get into it I’ll just give you some ideas to play with yourself.
So honey, now we’re getting into chastity play I was reading about something that got me kind of curious, and I was thinking about trying it but wanted to run it by you first.
I know, I know I’m supposed to be taking the lead and I am, aren’t I, don’t you think I’m doing well?
(Wait for compliments)
Well thank you, I’m proud of how I’m doing. But this one, well, it’s… very personal. But Jane, who writes that blog I keep reading says she and her hubby love it and it’s got me very curious.
What is it? (Start playing with his cock)
Well it’s teasing… you like teasing, don’t you?
But, well it’s teasing about something lots of guys are sensitive about. It’s teasing about… the size of your cock.
Oh honey, your cock twitched at that. Was that because it’s not good, or… is it because for some reason it might turn you on?
Interesting.
Well we don’t have to do it, we could just revisit other things from this last week, or would you like to explore being teased?
You would?
Well, first I’m supposed to tell you how much I love your cock.
(Kiss and play with it)
And I do love it, especially when it’s caged up, It makes me feel it’s mine, mine to do with what I want, and that’s so hot.
I like it when it’s all hard too, squeezing it, feeling you pulse in my hands. Giving it long slow strokes and hearing the noises you make.
But, having told you all that, I have to confess… sometimes I wish you were a bit bigger.
I think that’s some of your fault. Some of those cocks you’ve shown me on tumblr, well they’re huge! The girls can’t even get their fingers around them.
And look… I can get mine around yours.
Oh I know, I’ve got a tape measure somewhere around here, let’s see how big you really are.
Oh look at this, can you imagine how frustrating that would be?
I can imagine why… wow, that’s very hot though, don’t you think?
If you have a big dildo at this point, and/or a strap on, get it out – if you don’t then you can just talk about getting one to turn them on.
If you haven’t used restraints yet, put them in them now if you have them.
Then start to play with the dildo. If it’s an extension sleeve, put it on them. A dildo, put it next to their cock, and alternate stroking them then the toy.
Tell them how it feels
The advantages of it, always staying hard, bigger, firmer
Then give both a blow job, but for him only enough to keep him desperate, focus on the dildo.
And then use it, while they are tied up, tease yourself with it, use a vibe at the same time. But fuck it until you cum, and then, lock them back up. And decide if you want to leave them tied up, or get them to help you with the big dildo.
Once you’re done, do cuddle up and reassure them that you love their cock, and that you were just teasing, and ask how it was for them. I hope, like we have, you’ve discovered a kinky little new twist that you can use, sometimes!
More posts here if you want to look at more together:
Here’s a post I wrote for Locktober with some more ideas with strap ons and also the related area of penis size teasing (which they all tend to find hot, I know, it surprised me too but now I’m really into it).
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