Post orgasm torture sounds a bit crazy but all it means is that once your man ejaculates, you keep stimulating him, yes, even though he’s gone super sensitive.
Again because we’re in Locktober we’re not even going to give him the pleasure of full orgasm, but simply ruin his orgasm, and then go back to wanking him after the pleasure is gone but he’s super sensitive!
We don’t do this often and I usually end up laughing as I do it as much as it being sexy, but, it’s a fun twist on NOT letting him cum, and as I suggest below, telling him if he cums before you say he can, that you’ll ruin it and then keep rubbing is, well it’s a huge hot mindfuck, that’s what it is!
HE HAS TO BE TIED DOWN! Or well, you can sit on his legs but seriously, don’t do this unless he’s restrained, hands and legs.
I’m not kidding. You will get thrown across the room.
But that intensity is so hot!
But yeah, arms tied tight, and legs too or you need to be sitting on them really firmly or well out of the way of them.
They seem to like using clingfilm for it in the videos!
I also find sitting on his tummy quite fun, it really keeps him pinned down and his cock is easier to torment when it’s all I’m focused on, so that’s worth a try too.
How to do it
Giving a hand job or blow job or good old combination of the two.
And then I tell him I’m going to do it, when he’s really close, that I’m not going to stop, that I’m going to keep on wanking him even after he’s cum – sometimes he kind of likes the idea, he won’t soon, trust me. Other times he starts begging me not to, I like that.
What can be very hot is do it as a threat. ‘If you cum before I say you can I’m going to ruin it then go back to rubbing you with your cum!’ And then just keep saying no until he goes over ‘without permission’ and use that as the excuse to ruin it and then torture him. SO hot!
Basically as he cums, just pause to ruin it, enjoy his desperate little moans!
I love to use his cum as the new lube, so I’ll put my hand over the top and make it fall right back down, and then I just go for it. He says there’s nothing like it he’s ever experienced, and he hates it and loves it all at once.
So yeah, keep wanking him, it’s all about the head of his cock, the rest not so much. Give it a good minute or two if you like to hear him beg, or just 20 seconds to give him a shock.
If you really want to go for it, try keeping going and see if you can ruin him again!
And of course, climb on! Why not fuck him while he’s writhing around… it’s quite funny, not very sexy though.
My favourite video of it has disappeared but a quick search will find lots of them, here’s a few I found:
If you have kids like us, you seriously might need to gag him! lol
I’ve told him I’m going to make him take Viagra and do this all evening one time – ‘no you’re fucking not!’ he replied. But it’s amazing what he’ll agree to get that cage off his cock!
Full Lockdown
Well if he’s stuck in his little cage then you’re limited on what you can do but you can still try, right? Look back at the caged ruin posts in Locktober, and do that, but keep the stimulation going. See how many times you can make his little caged cock spurt, ruining every one of them of course!
I hope you enjoyed your weekend! Pampering, teasing and then ideally some of you managed to make them cum in their cages! If you haven’t checked in on how horny that’s left them, it’s definitely worth a text. ‘How horny are you now baby? You realise this means I don’t ever have to take you out?’ LOL
Okay, so firstly, if you did make them cum in their cage, and left them in… well you may want to take them out. Then again, you may not! It’s totally up to you at this point. If you’ve been doing even half of the stuff so far you’ll be starting to get an idea of what excites you most, so just trust your instinct and decide if you prefer to leave them locked up or get them out to play with them tonight.
All of this chastity journey started with hubby and I looking at sex toys together last year, and him suggesting it might be fun to try a cock cage. So, we love sex toys.
We’ve had then in various forms from before we were married. He bought me my first vibrator as a birthday present (I know, what a romantic!), and well we’ve built up quite the collection!
Tonight there are three things we’re going to do, not all of them might apply.
Firstly, I’m going to encourage you to go through your toy collection, if you have some. Have a look at what you have and maybe pick out some you haven’t used for a while to try out!
Secondly I’d like you to do what we do, browse some sex toys online and see if there’s anything you should be getting.
Lastly I’ll give you some specific heads up on toys you might want to get for chastity play, for Locktober and beyond.
Mostly when we recommend toys we also add a link to Lovehoney (except some cages which we like but they don’t sell). We do benefit from an affiliate link with them but we’d recommend them regardless. They’re they only toy store we’ve ever used I think, apart from maybe some random Anne Summers purchases!
The main reason we recommend them is the amazing fact that they offer free returns, no questions asked, for a whole year after you buy from them! For us that’s a great thing as it means we can recommend stuff and if you don’t like it, well, no problem, just send it back! But also it means you can try things if you’re not sure about it, and just return it, used, yes used! To them if you don’t like it. They even include the returns label in the box!
Also,everything is very discreet, the packaging is plain, the credit card bill is just LH Trading or something like that, and while you can deal with them online, actually their customer service team are SO lovely.
Anyway, back to the plan!
Something Old
So have a look through your toys, relive some memories, and take some time to have some fun. It may be some new ones you want to use (I’m think our King Cock might be making an appearance!) or perhaps look back at the oldest ones you have. (Also, toys do die over time, if a toy’s got all manky, just throw it out and make some space!).
So perhaps you could pick a favourite toy each to play with, or maybe there’s some you’ve bought but never used, get them out now and, at the very least, TALK about them, why you got them in the first place, why you haven’t used them, and whether you should try them, now, or another time!
Something new
So, another fun activity is heading over to Lovehoney and just browsing different departments! As with all I recommend, try to do this in a completely positive way, no silly reactions to things your partner might be curious about. Laughing is great, pulling a face and looking disgusted, not so good! It’s just like fantasies, they are just curious, and wondering if you are curious too. So have an explore, laugh or scream at some of the crazy toys there are out there! Maybe even decide to try some! It’s so much easier when you realise you’re just trying them out and can send them back for free if you don’t like it.
Their special offers pages are always worth a look and they always have a Deal of the Day with an extra large discount.
The two for 25 is always a great place to bag a bargain in my experience, and the 3 for 10 deal are lots of cheap fun things, but handy for getting over the free delivery threshold!
Something borrowed, something blue?
Hmm,well maybe not, although the strap on I recommend is purple… And that’s what this section is. Some of the specific toys we’ve found most helpful for our chastity play together. Our personal recommendations and ones that you’d benefit from having if you’re enjoying this journey and are willing to try being a bit kinkier!
Lube
Lube, you need lube. If you don’t think you do, you’re wrong!
Lube for toys, especially butt plugs and big dildos, sure but we use by far the most for putting on him when edging him, and also for lubricating the cage.
Best lube for handjobs and edging – Silicon Lubes (they are crazy slippery and last for ages
Silicon lubes are also best for applying to your age as they don’t react if it’s a plastic one and they stay slippery all night or all day.
Do NOT use water based lubes for these purposes, they just dry out and go sticky! Water based lubes are only really good for dildos/strap ons etc where they will be going in the woman as her natural lubrication keeps them from going sticky. Oh and for blowjobs, as they can be flavoured.
Vibrators
You either want small and powerful – ideally rechargable like these great Rocks Off brand ones.
Or you want to go big and SUPER powerful, as with these wand type mains powered vibes. Don’t buy the classic Hitachi Wand though, it only has two, way too strong, power levels, try one of these instead.
Finally our most expensive, but very cool, vibrator is the WeVibe. This is just for me, and is a clever shape that goes on my clitoris and my g-spot at the same time. You can use it alone or during love making to add pressure and vibrations to your g-spot (feels amazing). But, the best feature… is it’s remote controlled, from ANYWHERE! So hubby can use the phone app to turn it on and off and change the patterns.
To say it’s useful for phone sex is something of an understatement. A friend told me they are all the rage in the armed forces for tours of duty apart, to the extent they tell each other they better get a We-vibe if they want to keep their woman!!!! lol
We both like using these, but most designs are rubbish and painful to wear! Our favourite by far are these RollPlay ones with a ball inside that silently rolls around and keeps you aware you’re wearing it.
We haven’t dared try the large, medium and small do us fine!
For chastity play, they help keep him aroused and act like a catalyst for horniness in our experience.
He likes to make me wear them out to dinners so we have the shared secret of being naughty together. I have yet to make him wear one to a dinner but now I think of it…
Specific plugs to massage or stimulate the prostate are also interesting and in combination with a vibrator, as some of you may have found last night, can produce explosive results!
Restraints
Covered this before in Locktober but under the bed restraints make light bondage an instant option. Nice comfy velcro strap make it a breeze to get either of us in or out of them, and tucked away out of sight with no hassle. A permanent fixture on our bed!
Strap ons
I’ve written at length about Why I Love our Strap-on – but in short, it’s a brilliant toy to combine with him being caged. He can wear it above his caged cock and so you can still have, much extended, love making sessions but he’s super horny and doesn’t cum, leave a mess in your or run out of libido until you are well and truly done.
I know, it sounds crazy kinky but this is so damn hot.
And of course, for the brave, the woman can wear it and use it on him for ‘pegging’. We’ll talk about this more but, if he’s really into chastity play already, it’s very, very VERY likely he’d at least gets turned on by the idea.
I wasn’t at all eager when he brought it up at first but actually, unlike all the silly captions, it can be very sensual indeed, and it’s genuinely how men are wired. They have a prostate gland that means they can cum from anal. Us women don’t! Seems a waste to not even try it…
The dildo that comes with the above recommended strap on is PERFECT for pegging if you are ever going to try it.
Leaving the best to last
Now my favourite toy, well, at least tied with my vibrators, is our King Cock Extra Girthy Dildo. It’s big, it’s really big, not crazy big but, yeah… And it looks and feels AMAZING.
I was scared the first time we opened this, but when I’m relaxed and ready, and it’s lubed, whether I used it, or he does, or he puts it on our strap on (because it is designed to easily go onto the one we recommended above) – it is mind blowing.
I hope that’s been useful and not JUST sounded like some big sales pitch. Please feel free to visit Lovehoney or your favourite store directly if you object to us using affiliate links, we don’t make much off it but it all helps me justify the time I spend on this blog to hubby!
Either way, we live in a wonderful age where we have all these fun toys to enhance our sex life. Wherever you are with your exploration, I hope we have encouraged you to go a little further and have more fun together!
So, four nights, five days locked up. Start tonight asking them how it’s been, talk about what’s good, what’s bad about it compared to what else you’ve done.
And then, ask them, ‘How would it be if I didn’t let you out?’ and see how that discussion goes, be honest, if you’ve even considered it, tell them, they’ll find that VERY hot.
Then announce that you want to reward them with a ruined orgasm for doing the five days, they’ll be excited at the thought of getting out, and then, add…’While you’re still caged’
Because that’s the task today, to see if you can make them spurt while still caged!
Just like that…
Now this isn’t easy, but it’s sure fun to try! We’ve managed it the three main ways I can think of, so I’ll quickly set out each and you can see which suits you.
I suggest you get him to edge you first if you need a bit of encouragement to go for this… maybe not cumming unless you manage to make him cum too. And yes, when I say cum, I mean ruin 🙂
Caged Cumming option 1
First to try is by playing with his cock in the cage, pulling, licking, rubbing, but most of all putting a vibrator, ideally a big powerful wand vibe against the cage.
Sometimes with the vibe you just ‘hit the spot’ and it’s quite easy to take them over, other times we’ve found we just can’t get it.
Unlike that picture though, be sure to pull away the vibe as soon as he goes over. We don’t want him having anything but a ruin today, but even that will feel great compared to the lack of stimulation he’s had.
If this is the approach you’re taking, well if you fail you then have the option to say, ‘oh well, if you came I was going to let you out but I think we’ll try again tomorrow, so we’ll just keep you locked up.’
Of course if you succeed, you have the counter argument, ‘Oh well if you can cum in the cage there’s no reason to let you out!’
He he.
Even if you plan to let them out… you should tease them with those, as they’re really pretty hot. And the ‘you may have thought you were coming out but you’re not’ appears to be one of the biggest turn-ons in this game (if we believe the captions anyway).
Option 2
Option 2 involves a butt plug, and ideally one designed to hit the prostate – often called a prostate massager. Now the idea with these is men can actually learn to just cum from exercising their pelvic floor muscles. We’ve never managed that although many say they have. For us, the answer is… whack the big vibrator on it! It works like magic!
Lots of lube, get the plug in him, lie him on his side, and slowly turn up the speed while pressing the wand on the base of the plug. Keep talking, get his feedback, play with his caged cock and nipples, but most of all have fun listening to the noises he makes! This can take time, half an hour of building it up of more, but it’s totaly worth it.
I know lots of you struggle with the whole plug and anal thing but, there is something absolutely extraordinary in teaching a guy he can cum without his cock being involved. It’s a genuine game changer in him realising there is more to sex than just sticking his cock somewhere!
Option 3
Option 3 is pegging or a dildo for prostate massage. Just so you can see it’s for real…
If you’re not new to this you’ll know what to do anyway, if you are new, now’s not the time to start! But if you’re brave enough we are going to try it later in the month. He would probably love this, so be open to it. I was resistant to it too but turns out it can be very sensual and sexy. It’s one of the things I save for special moments.
NO MATTER WHICH OPTION YOU PICK YOU RUIN THE ORGASM! This is easier with option 1, prostate orgasms tend to be different anyway, but once he starts spurting, stop the stimulation. Just because you can and we don’t want any full orgasms before the end of the month!
And then, well see what you fancy, keep him caged or let him out… your choice.
So yesterday he was doing the work, today you’re going to be doing most of it… on yourself!
Oh yes, here’s one that will drive him crazy. So if you’ve got some sexy lingerie, go for it tonight. Do a full on dress up, and have fun with it. I honestly like dressing up for sex even more now than I ever did, knowing how crazy it makes him when he’s being denied. Yummy!
Tying him up is pretty much essential so do get some restraints if you haven’t got them (or you can use stockings or silk scarves). On top of which a dildo is really going to add to the fun if you don’t have one.
So as usual, get him to warm you up. Then tie him up! The whole idea is you’re going to masturbate and enjoy yourself while he lies there helplessly unable to get involved, his poor little cock all caged up.
Now I’m getting good at this mean stuff so I’ll also put some porn on, even if he can’t see it, to make it even worse. Then I’ll browse tumblr and start playing with myself. Maybe show him a thing or two, but mostly, just enjoy it. Add a vibe and get myself close, then I tend to grab his caged cock and pull on it. That’s about all the stimulation I plan on giving him tonight…
I’ll tell him how much I love keeping his cock caged, and then cum, maybe looking at him, maybe just ignoring him.
Then, then I’ll pull out the big guns, specifically our big dildo, the King Cock Extra Girthy and I’ll start using it. Verbalising is the real challenge, firstly making noises, you just have to overdo it. Remember they are used to porn, so try and be a porn star for them, lots of ‘Oh my god!’ and moaning and ‘It feels so good’.
And then, well then you could get meaner.
Compare it to him, either verbally, ‘Oh god this is so much bigger than you’ (obviously only if you’ve both got into this teasing…) or even put it on him and compare it to him. You could even lube it and wank it, or give it a quick blowjob. They will go nuts, I promise!
As you use it, tell them how good it feels inside you, and ask out loud why you need to ever unlock him if you have this dildo. All you need is his mouth and hands…
If you fancy it, shove it in his mouth, let him taste you or even clean it.
Then fuck it and vibe till you cum, as many times as you can. Seriously, push yourself. Each one will drive him crazy.
And that’s it. Cuddle up to him afterwards. I’d wait a bit to untie him, just playing with his straining cock and telling him how much you love this, and him. And if you’re feeling cheeky…whispering, ‘I’m really not sure if I want to let you out tomorrow, I guess we’ll find out!’
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