The real art with edging is to learn exactly how to get him as
close as possible to an explosion without actually allowing him to
erupt. If you pay close attention while you fondle and play, you’ll
learn precisely the clear warning signs of an imminent ejaculation.
There’s nothing quite like edging for subliminally building a guys
libido and desire. Not only will he cherish you more, thanks to
neurochemistry, but within a short timeframe his vulnerable and
exploitable mind will be totally under your feminine control…
Here are some tips:
1 – Make him always tell you exactly how close he is. Kind of
obvious, but Insist that he tells you when to slow down and when to
stop. Especially in the beginning while you’re learning how to read his
body language. Keep talking to him, ask him how it feels, what is best.
You’ll soon get the feel of it and he’ll love you even more for it…
2 – Feel for his body and muscles tensing, him holding his breath,
arching his back or even tensing, all are signs he’s getting very
close. Learn to read and understand the signs and don’t worry if you go
over, you’re learning. Just be sure it’s a libido-building ruined
orgasm…
3 – Move from strong to soft strokes, from his vein filled shaft
up to his tip constantly. Change it up, take your time and make sure you
get him ultra rock hard for maximum dopamine production in his
vulnerable brain… I personally like lots of lube and oil and fast but
not too tight of strokes, and then as he gets closer and closer, move to
a looser grip and then focus on his hypersensitive head and frenulem
(the strip underneath the head at the top where guys are most
sensitive). Also take breaks frequently. It’s better to stop one second
too early than one second too late, stroke – edge – deny – repeat…
4 – Make it ultimately his fault if he erupts. So again, if he
does explode make sure you properly ruin it. Stop all rubbing and
stimulation as soon as he starts to climax. Or if he’s tied down, you
turn it into a post orgasm torture, after the ruined orgasm, where you
use his slippery cum as lube to keep rubbing his hypersensitive
Joystick, scolding him by saying: you’re so naughty, I didn’t give you
permission to cum…
5 – When you do want to enjoy his pent up explosions, make that
part of the tease too. When you’re planning to make him climax and
erupt, this is a great time to also practice your edging techniques. Use
it as an opportunity to see just how crazy you can make him, where
you’re not worrying about accidently taking him over the edge…
6 – Oh and you can add a wonderfully sadistic element with this
line: If you can hold on for just five minutes more my love, I won’t
ruin it when you do cum, okay baby…
Thanks to FemdomDoneRight for this effective mindfuck and programming tool.
Extra notes by HerBodyOnMyMind:
1 – Routine is critical. Edge him every day. For best
results: One short session (15 minutes) every other morning; one
medium-length session (20-30 minutes) every evening before bed; and at
least one long session (40+ minutes) every weekend. If this seems like a
lot of time, consider how much time you spend alone doing things you
wish he was interested in (like watching your favorite shows on
Netflix). This is one activity he will eagerly join. Edging is
addictive to male neurochemistry, and it very specifically addicts him
to you, as long as you do it regularly. The more you do it, the
more deeply he bonds to you, and the more he will crave spending time
with you throughout the day. This feeds on itself, and before long,
your nightly “quality time” together becomes perfectly natural for both
of you. Even if you’re already in love, married, and devoted to each
other, your connection can still go deeper – and the fire of wilder days
can be rekindled. No more going to bed alone! Also, any time spent
having sex or pleasuring you can count toward his edge time. (at your
discretion) Daily orgasms for you, his heat beside you as you drift to
sleep, and an eager, attentive lover totally addicted to your touch –
what’s not to love? No matter how busy or tired you are, you both have
the time for this, I promise. Do it for a week, and you will start
making time for it.
2 – Edge him more than once. For most, this is obvious.
But for some new to edging, it needs to be said. Don’t just edge him
once and assume you’re done. Depending on his stamina (and how long
it’s been since his last orgasm) it can take a while to build him up to
his first edge of the night. It’s important to think of it that way:
“first edge of the night.” Because once you’ve guided him to his edge –
and stopped – he is still highly aroused, and edging him again becomes
easy. All that build-up was time invested to get him to his most
blissful state. Now “cash in” your investment and keep him there, by
edging him over and over again. It should be easy. A single, slow,
tight pump is sometimes enough. Watch his reaction and enjoy the show!
(Women report that this is usually their favorite part – guiding their
loved one from edge to edge with subtle touches, watching him, and
knowing the exquisite gift he trusts only her to give.)
3 – Keep him guessing. Every single time you touch his
cock, he should never know if you intend to edge him, ruin him, or give
him a full orgasm. Lie to him. Tell him you’re going to stop, then
don’t. Or tell him you’re going to ruin him, then give him a full
orgasm. Or congratulate him on the orgasm you’re about to give him,
then “change your mind” and stop for the night. This only works if you
also sometimes tell the truth. Once he learns you are unpredictable,
his body will naturally prepare for orgasm, (every time!) giving him the
rush he craves – while his mind reels in fear of the alternatives. You
are fucking his mind, in addition to his body – in a very good way!
Watch how he reacts – from the curl of his toes to the flare in his
eyes. It’s incredibly hot.
4 – A “ruined” orgasm is when you let go and cease all
stimulation, a split second before he climaxes. His cum will sort of
just leak out, and it’s not as satisfying as a full orgasm. “Ruined” is
a misnomer, though, because he still gets some small pleasure from it,
so don’t be afraid to ruin him regularly. He might thrash, beg, or try
to finish it himself, so this is a good time to playfully experiment
with restraints – something as simple as tying his wrists together
behind his back with a belt or necktie will do the trick. The important
difference between a ruined and regular orgasm is that the male libido
does not diminish after a ruined orgasm. He will stay horny, eager,
erect, and attentive, as though he had no orgasm at all, and you can
continue playing, if you wish, after a short break. You can even ruin
him twice in one night – the second one is usually harder to achieve,
though.
So today we’re going to address something that’s a bit taboo to many, and that’s anal play.
The wonderful irony of this is for quite a few of you even discussing anal sex might have been a no-go area. So it’s a lovely twist that only now his poor cock is locked up you might finally be able to broach the topic, and I can promise you if that’s the case then even the smallest hint you’re more open to it will drive him crazy. So even if that’s the only motive, it’s a fun one.
Let me make the case for exploring bumplay (is that a better term than anal, maybe?) and especially for why it works well with chastity play. And bear in mind, I’m primarily talking about just touching and playing on the outside, not even penetration as a focus
Our bottoms are incredibly rich in nerve endings – second only to the clitoris or cock head in terms of our genital area. If you can relax about it then you’ll discover that simply being touched or caressed there feels lovely
With his cock locked away it gives you another area you can tease and stimulate which will keep him horny and excited
There is some kind of connection between the feelings brought on by chastity and the desire in him to stimulate and especially lick your bottom. I do not know why this is but we absolutely have found this to be true. Hubby’s gone from occasionally doing that to tease me to full out desperate to pleasure me there
Along with a chastity cage, a butt plug is the other toy that you can wear and covertly enjoy together as a sexy shared secret. For years that was the main way we used them. We’d be going to some boring event and hubby would suggest I go plugged – and honestly it kept us entertained most of the evenings!
A butt plug acts like a way to accelerate a guy’s horniness when caged, so if i’m in a hurry to get him desperate I’ll get him to wear both
If you have held back on anal sex, finally exploring it together can be incredibly intimate – as long as you do it properly I promise, it’s genuinely pleasurable. I personally went from not even being prepared to talk about it to absolutely loving it quite early on in our marriage.
It never stops feeling naughty, in the best possible way. Whispering ‘Fuck me in the ass’ is unfailingly the single best way to turn him on, every time. Of course now it’s often ‘I wish you were uncaged so you could…
If anal sex is not something you currently do can I first please encourage you to read this post I wrote about it together which has some practical tips and other thoughts on it. Whichever partner isn’t into it (yes it can sometimes be the guy) please just use the chance to talk about it and maybe review where you are with it. Even a small shift in your attitude will mean the world to your partner, I’m sure.
Okay, with that said, we’re going to do a few more simple Locktober tasks that involve it today.
We have a simple routine which is that if hubby’s interested in anything more than a simple handjob in bed then he will have showered. And as part of that showering he literally soaps and scrubs his bum so he’s squeaky clean. And I do the same. Also if you don’t wax then make sure you’ve recently had a go shaving the area in the shower or bath.
So make sure you’ve done that in preparation.
Have him do a warm up on you (and if you’re nervous about any bumplay but wanting to try it, then a drink to relax you will always help). And this time, as he licks you, just let him rub your bottom with a finger. Remember, no cumming during the warm up!
Your turn now, uncage him (or not if you’re not doing that!), restrain if you fancy it, and then start to stroke him with a lubed hand and involve your mouth if you fancy it.
Talk to him about anal, does it excite him, why, if you do it would he like more, tell him what you think about it, just, as with everything we’re trying, be positive!
Now, you’re going to keep stimulating his cock, and add a lubed finger tip rubbing his bottom too. Just watch how he reacts, try soft teasing strokes, or firmer ones, Try your nail run around it (feels AMAZING). Just have fun seeing how turned on it gets him. Playing with the outside of it is absolutely all you need to do if you’re new to this. I know it takes time to feel comfortable, and rubbing the outside gives them a huge amount of pleasure. Also some guys love the perineum, the bit between their balls and bottom to be stroked and rubbed – you can rub a bit harder there in my experience – it’s kind of like the root of their cock is there, I always like that thought.
If you want to go further and push a finger in (which at this point is more a psychological thrill than about the stimulation in my opinion – we’ll get to proper prostrate massage another time) then you can put a condom or even just a cut off rubber glove finger on, heck you could wear a whole rubber glove if you made it look sexy! But you really don’t need to for just playing outside.
If you’re really enjoying it then using lots of lube and again a condom if you want it, push your finger in his bottom, not deep, just the tip in and out and see how it feels for you both.
If you prefer to then you can use a toy, a slim dildo etc – just make sure it has a wide base, you do NOT want it disappearing up!
Just have fun with it! It’s a wonderful way to give him pleasure. We’re not going after the whole prostate thing today, just learning to be relaxed and include bumplay sometimes.
Your turn!
So, when you’ve got bored with that…lol, your turn. CAGE HIM BACK UP NOW or you are going to get fucked, trust me.
In the preparing for Locktober posts I suggested as well as a cage you might want to buy butt plugs. If you did, then the end of your edging him could be inserting that into him. At least suggest it and see what he thinks. It’s a good time as he’ll be all warmed up for it.
Anyway, plugged or not get him to go down on you while you browse tumblr or similar. This is a great place to start:
So, you should have a vibe on hand too, because when you’ve got close, and got up enough confidence if this is new (don’t cum first, you want to be horny as hell to enjoy it the most) you need to turn over on your front, look at him over your shoulder and say ‘lick my ass (or equivalent) till I cum’.
Yes, you really need to say it. Why? Because it turns them on so SO much (I’m repeatedly told). And I can understand that, a nice cute wife or girlfriend telling him to do something so very naughty… hot!
So then, you have a few options. You can help, by rubbing or vibing yourself as he focuses his attention on your bottom. Or you can try him rubbing or vibing you with a hand and you just lie there and enjoy. Or it can actually be quite helpful to pull one cheek over a bit to give him easier access (or both hands for that really slutty porn star feel!). Try different things and see which works for you!
If you’ve got this far then, well done! You’re probably discovering, as we did, that this is one of the hottest and naughtiest things you can share.
It’s seriously, off the charts.
If you fancy it, try more dirty talk – tell him to lick more, call it your rosebud or butthole or whatever you think is hot, tell him how good it feels, tell him how much you love his cock caged up, even tease him about fucking it, that you’d love it right now if he wasn’t caged, wouldn’t he love to fuck your tight ass, the irony that all the time he wanted to fuck it and now he just gets to lick it (I love that!) etc etc.
Yes or apparently ‘eat that asshole like it’s a birthday cake…’ is hot! lol
Make sure you cum from rubbing or vibe while you’re being licked, and if you fancy some more, just keep going. Otherwise, well let’s just say you should be prepared for his aching cock pressed hard into you most of the night. Good thing it’s caged huh!
Oh, and if you plugged him, you should probably let him take it out. This time at least…
Well done, if that was your first foray into anal exploration I hope you enjoyed it. It’s of course very optional but I’m obviously very pro (having been very anti) and it works so well with chastity play I consider it a lovely and regular thing to include in our sex life. Plus, now you realise just how good (and naughty) it can feel perhaps you’ll understand all those captions that include it a bit better!
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